Shyness is one of those qualities that can stand in the way of your success. If you consider yourself shy, you’re far from alone. Meeting new people is the second biggest social fear (public speaking, of course, is number one). So how do you learn to overcome shyness? The same way you learn other skills – practice.
So if you want to deal with shyness, simply practice starting conversations with people. Yes, you could go to a business networking event which is the easiest place to learn how to start a conversation. But if you can’t get to such an event, all you need to do is be somewhere where there will be other people. So how do you start a conversation, here’s a few simple ways: Read more... (420 words, estimated 1:41 mins reading time)
Talk about a loaded question. Imagine you’re sitting in your interview all dressed up and everything is going smoothly. Then you get tossed this humdinger of question. How do you answer? Do you describe the person sitting across the table from you? Do you tell the truth and say that you’re ideal boss is one that’s never around? Is there such a thing as a good answer to this question? Read more... (846 words, estimated 3:23 mins reading time)
If you either did not watch the Miss USA pageant last night or missed the story covered in the news, there was some backlash to an answer on a question on gay marriage. Taking the brunt of the storm is Miss California, who came in second, as people were shouting in the hallways after the event demanding that she be stripped of her runner up title. Normally, I’d ignore a story like this because it reeks of fluff – a term my high school social studies teacher, the late Mr. Bob Swanson, used to describe items that were printed in newspapers but had no real value. However, times have changed and there are some important lessons to be learned here. Read more... (952 words, estimated 3:48 mins reading time)
I don’t normally watch a lot of TV so I ignored all the hullabaloo surrounding Susan Boyle for several days. I noticed clips of her and Simon Cowell on CNN & Foxnews and figured she was just this year’s William Hung. Then I saw her video on Youtube.
If you haven’t seen her video yet, I highly recommend that you stop reading and watch it first — simply click the play button above. I had no idea what to expect when I watched it for the first time, and I think that’s one of the reasons it inspires me so much. Read more... (907 words, estimated 3:38 mins reading time)
The power of the written word has both the advantage and disadvantage of tone. Yes, you can type in ALL CAPS to convey anger or use punctuation creatively to get your point across. But when it comes to verbal communication, whether it’s speaking to groups or having a one on one conversation, how you say it can drastically change how it’s heard.
Now there are a number of different aspects of communication that can be changed and tweaked to get a point across. For this series, we’ll just focus on some of the verbal only ones. We’ll start with what I call the “Three E’s of Effective Communicating.” They are: Read more... (757 words, estimated 3:02 mins reading time)