Everyone wants to be better. We want to look better, feel better, perform better, get better results, etc….Â I’veÂ fallen into this category and asÂ I’ve realized as I’ve Â interacted with thousands of people via social media over the last couple years, I’m not the only one. I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with focusing on improving yourself – after all, we can do some amazing things when we improve ourselves.
Lately,Â I’veÂ had a few things on my mind though. It all hit me last week when I was having a conversation with a friend. I was lamenting about all these little problems I have in my life and how I felt life is sometimes unfair. Looking back, it’s not even proper to call these things “problems” when what they’re really just Â “annoyances”. Then I looked over at him and joked that he was the wrong person to complain to. In a few weeks, he’s going into the hospital for a couple months for cancer treatment. He’s not the only person I know that’s been having what I refer to as “real problems.” I know people that are going through serious relationship issues (not just a break-up), financial problems (the kind that cause you to lose your home) and other things that dwarf the types of problems I have.
I think this personal development culture is great in so many ways as there’s nothing better than people working together to help everyone reach their goals. On the flip side, I think sometimes we focus on the wrong things thinking they will bring us happiness. I get emails every day claiming to get me thousands of Twitter followers, likes on my Facebook page or visitors to my website. I also get the emails that claim to help me make thousands of dollars each week, turn me into an incredible lover or help me lose those “difficult pounds.”
There’s a song called “The Man I Want to Be” by Chris Young that I think drives the point home. The song is about a guy who messed up and wants his lady back. There are a lot of songs like this (especially country songs) but what differentiates this one from the others is that he wants to be a better man for her benefit, not for his own. You can watch the video below:
So what I did was think about how I could be a better person, not just for me but for those around me. I came up with four areas that I want to get better at. For each of them, I came up with the first rule that came to mind and listed it. They are:
- Honesty — Don’t say things thatÂ aren’tÂ true.
- Respect – Don’t say something about someone that IÂ wouldn’tÂ say to their face.
- Integrity — Live by the values I claim to live by.
- Dependability — Do what I promise to do.
While I don’t violate these rules regularly, there is definitely room for improvement. So what I plan to do over the next four weeks is focus on each of these areas and do a quick blog post about whatÂ I’veÂ learned, whatÂ I’veÂ struggled with and how I plan to keep working at it. I have no idea how this will turn out from a blogging standpoint, but I hope to end up with a better me.