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Public Speaking Blog Articles: Week in Review [2008-06-07] said,         
June 7 2008

[...] Feudo provides advice for handling questions from three types of audience members. Regardless of why the person is asking a lot of questions, [...]

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Jeremy Jacobs said,         
June 7 2008

I can’t seem to see what Toastmasters Club you belong to.

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ssgreylord said,         
June 8 2008

Very interesting post. While I don’t use public speaking skills day-to-day, I am interested in communicating skills. I found your post helpful in general. Thank you.

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James said,         
June 10 2008

Jeremy,

I no longer belong to Toastmasters. I was a member from 2002 until 2007.

ssgreylord,

Thanks for the note. Glad you found the info helpful.

James

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Terry Gault said,         
June 14 2008

James,

I like the way you have broken questioners into three categories. Answering questions is a great way to create audience interaction. Nonetheless, sometimes they can become a problem, especially if they come from what you call the show-off.

Here is how I personally deal with this dynamic (what I call stump-the-chump dynamic):

-Keep a very warm, friendly “interface”. This allows you to maintain control over your state of being and will keep the rest of the audience on your side.
-Play the role of “helpful facilitator.”
“I am just trying to be as helpful as I can be.”
-Let the person trying to stump you be “the expert”.
“Wow, you really know a lot about this!”
Engage them with humor and have fun with them.
“Maybe you should be up here delivering this presentation.”
“Let’s check with Bob. He IS the expert, after all.”
-When the expert / pain-in-the-ass starts to take you down into the weeds, get the group to help you out.
“Gee, I’d love to talk more about this. At the same time, I want to make sure that others in the group get what they need from our time together. (To the group) Do we want to dive deeper into this topic right now?”
-Then the group can be the bad guy, saying no, while you remain the “helpful facilitator.”
“Bob, I want to make sure that you get what you need. How about you and I can take this offline?”
-Operate from the assumption that there is no conflict. My experience has been that conflict will not survive if not given oxygen. By assuming there is conflict, we tend to get into a debate-based mode of communication and thought. That tends to exacerbate the situation.
-Let go of the need to be right. After all, do you want to be “right” or do you want to get what you want?
-When you start to feel that you are being pulled into real or potential conflict:
1) Practice Interchangable Empathy – paraphrasing what they say with empathy.
Try to capture the emotionality in your facial expression and voice. Pay particular attention to the energy they express around the issue.
“Wow! So, you really feel that we have dropped the ball on this last implementation!”
2) Check to see if you captured it.
“Did I get that right?”
“Have I captured your meaning?”
3) If you get anything besides an unqualified, “Yes” try again.
“It sounds like you have reservations. Help me understand where I am off the mark?”
4) Validate whatever they have said that you can honestly agree with.
“I agree that we have been arrogant in how we deal with customers.”
“I agree that our prices certainly appear to be high at first glance.”
5) Ask a question or surface your assumptions.
“Help me – how did you arrive at that conclusion?”
“I have this assumption that the real issue here is …”
“What our other customers have found is that the total cost of ownership is much lower …”

Approaching the situation in this fashion can make even this annoying part of the audience an asset in helping you connect with your audience.

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James said,         
June 21 2008

Hi Terry,

Thanks so much for the comments. These are all great tips.

James

 

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